My middle guy is in deep doo-doo at the moment. Let’s just say I’ve been warning him that when two or more teenage boys hang around on street corners, everyone assumes they are up to no good – and it happened the other night. Not that they were innocent, but there was a lot of jumping to conclusions by some neighbours and a police car was involved. It gave him the fright of his life and I don’t think he has slept properly since. My husband and I disagreed mildly on whether the whole incident was punishment enough, but I didn’t think we should let it go without “consequences” being put in place.
The biggest consequence as far as he is concerned, is the loss of Xbox for quite some time, and no pocket money/allowance for the same duration. For me it’s the fact that he’s grounded and not allowed to be with the nearest co-idiot unless there’s at least one parent present. He also has to do a big chore for me every day (they’re out of school for the summer here), as well as a page of his summer math packet.
Yes, it sounds a bit harsh, but I’m sure I’ll get through it. Unfortunately with kids this age, there aren’t a lot of toys to take away and when you do, you end up with a six foot lump of lard lying around the house, alternating between eating you out of house and home and shooting daggers at you. All this grounding and daily doling out of tasks is more work for me than anyone else, but needs must.
If anyone has any good “consequences” that don’t inflict so much parental pain I’d love to hear about them.